This is a love letter to my grown son.
It seems like only yesterday you were just a little baby laying in my arms. Sometimes I look at you or just a part of your body such as your calf and I almost can’t remember how it felt to hold you when you were so little. I miss how we used to “snuggle bug” at night. I miss our bedtime ritual…
Me: G’nite.
You: G’nite.
Me: See you in the mornin’.
You: See you in the mornin’.
Me: Bye.
You: Bye.
Together: No, bye. I win. Yeah.
What’s even more amazing is that you still remember it too.
Through the years I did my best at giving you what a parent was supposed to provide: love, food, shelter, and almost anything else you wanted. I never really had the money to give you the things that a lot of others around you got, but you were so easy and understanding. You never complained. And when your dad left I did everything in my power never to bad mouth him or tell you about the things that lead up to him leaving. I wanted you to be able to make your own decisions and have your own opinion as to what kind of man he was. I am sorry that hasn’t always been an easy thing for you. You have experienced some things in life that no child should ever have to experience because of him and still you are strong.
You amaze me.
Now that you are a grown man I wonder if maybe I should have done some things differently. I was always trying to be awesome raising you without your dad and because of that I probably coddled you too much. I look back now and I realize that there were things I forgot to teach you too. I forgot to teach you how to have fun. I forgot to tell you that getting in trouble every once in a while can be a good learning experience. I forgot to help you DREAM BIG so that you can achieve anything you want to achieve. I was so worried about you becoming your own person and forgetting about me that I never let you truly experience life on your own.
Let’s fix this.
Don’t worry about me. I don’t want you to ever feel like you are obligated to stay here because of me. I probably made you feel guilty about wanting to stay in Georgia when we moved to Florida this past summer, but I was worried that you wouldn’t be able to take care of yourself without me. If I am honest with myself I realize it was more selfish than anything else and I was more worried that I would miss you too much.
I just want you to know that if you ever feel like your path is leading you somewhere other than here that I totally understand. I love you. You are a good man and a great son. Live life and have fun. Go experience things and dream big!
Love,
Mom
Today is a great day to read some other blogger’s letters to their sons. Start with Being Alison’s Letter to Her Son.
The last part made me cry…I don’t want to think of my son ever moving on, but real men have to, and we have little man that we are raising to be strong, independent men. *sigh* You are a great mom!
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Penelope recently posted..Letters To My Son
Penelope, it was particularly difficult because his dad left when he was 5 and we only had each other. He has been my one constant and vice versa. He is my best friend.
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(((Hugs))) You are a good mom!
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Penelope recently posted..Letters To My Son
Wonderful letter…he is a great son and grandson too.
OH my, this makes me want to cry! Having a son who is almost grown myself, I know a little bit about how very very hard it is to let go — it must be double hard for you since you have only had each other! Big hugs to you, it looks like you did an amazing job on your own!
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Awww thanks Henrietta. He makes my job easy.
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Love. That’s all I could see in this letter as I read through – love love love!
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Lisa, you letter touched me, deeply. It’s beautiful and heartfelt, and I love reading a letter to a grown son. What a great Mom you are!
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Donna recently posted..Letters to Our Sons – February 2013
Awww, thanks Donna. It was definitely heartfelt…I cried while I wrote it.
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Lisa Samples recently posted..Getting Fabulous in 2013: Snacking with Quaker Popped Rice Snacks
Aww, how incredibly sweet! I think you’re a great mom.
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Wow, what a beautiful post. What did your son say when he read it?
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Zippy Sandler recently posted..The Money Code
This so sweet, you are a wonderful mom and don’t ever forget it and I know that because he IS Wonderful! love ya
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I am in tears. What a sweet letter. You are a great mom and I’m sure he’s a wonderful young man because of how you’ve raised him.
My boys are still in elementary school but I can’t imagine how sad I’ll be when the time comes that they go out on their own.
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Thanks Andrea and it is a sad time when they are grown because you are sad they are leaving but you know they have to eventually.
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What a beautiful letter! Made me tear up!
Thanks, I cried like a baby writing it.
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FIrst ((hugs))! Your letter is simply beautiful and made me tear up. Your son is so handsome too! Even though my son isn’t that old (yet) I still look at him and can’t remember him being so little or such a chunker as he was his 1st year of life. It’s sad that sometimes life gets so chaotic it’s hard to cherish those moments you really want to cherish.
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Oh how sweet. I love reading all of these. I miss the days of when my boys were small. I miss so much about those days, but I look forward to building so many memories now that they are bigger. That is why I planned this massive almost two month camping trip this summer. I want to squeeze every last ounce of memory and love out of them while I can before they leave the house.
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I love you mom
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I love you too!
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Lisa Samples recently posted..Save the Babies: What is RSV? #RSVprotection
It’s a lovely letter.. I think we all look back and wonder what if… But you did a great job, you gave him wings.