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Tips and Tricks to Keep the Spark Alive in Your Marriage

I read today that marriage rates are at an all time low.  It doesn’t surprise me.  According to report found by CBS  the current number of married adults has dropped to a record low of 51% compared to 1960 when 72% of U.S. adults were married.  I’m not sure if there is any correlation, but with all the failing marriages (and I’ve seen a TON lately) perhaps people are shying away from tying the knot.  If that is the case it is especially important to keep the spark alive in your marriage.

Tips and Tricks

  • Dating.  Yes, setting that one day a week or month even aside for an official date with your spouse.  We make an official date, set a specific time, and “meet” downstairs at the specified time for our outing.  We also take turns hosting the evening and making the plans – surprising each other.   A date can be as simple as walking around the mall talking, going to dinner, having a picnic, catching a movie, or grab a cup of coffee somewhere.
  • Play Dress Up.  This doesn’t have to have a negative connotation and can be as simple as putting on an 80’s fancy dress and spending the night at the rollerskating rink.  It can however, include ideas for sexy costumes and a romantic evening in the bedroom.  Surprise your spouse every once in a while and remind him/her that you are still a sexy vixen or stud.
  • Write.  Put a note in your spouses lunch or on the steering wheel.  Make it sexy or tease them with a sneak peek into what you have in store for them later that night.  If that isn’t your style – just let them know you are thinking about them and want them to have a nice day.  Whatever you write it is sure to please.
  • Touch.  The power of touch is incredible and if you are within reach – touch him/her.  Hold hands.  Rub her/his back.  Touch!  You’ll be surprised.
  • Unplug.  Pick one day a week to unplug and spend time together – you’d be surprised how much you might learn about your spouse.

Regardless if you pick one or two of these things off the list you are bound to see an improvement in your relationship.  Don’t expect huge changes over night – remember that marriage takes work.  What better way to ensure your child’s future marriage is successful than by setting an example!

Disclosure: This is a featured post from Fancy Dress Ball.



  1. I think that these are great tips! I try to do most of them from time to time, but should do them more. I think it really does make a difference. Actually, my hubby has to head to work for an abnormal 3rd shift tonight, so I’m going to write him a quick note and tape it to the door before I go to bed. Maybe it’ll brighten his night/morning a little bit!

  2. Great tips! You’re right…it seems that a lot of my friends’ marriages have failed lately and I want to do anything to keep my family happy, healthy…and TOGETHER.

  3. Mary Ambrosino says

    Sounds like a great idea.

  4. These tips you have shared in order for our relationship will work well is very effective.I think trust is the most important part of this. without trust love will go nowhere.

  5. I love this! I have been married 10 years and my husband now travels for work, so we only get 2 wks together each month…I do a lot of the things you mentioned in this post. Actually, today, I snuck some love notes into his suitcase right before he left for a trip!

  6. One of the most important part having a successful marriage is making the time to do things by yourself that you enjoy.

  7. Every boy should HAVE TO read this article befor “becoming a man”! Everything that i read is so true and very important and frankly disapointing that some men cant think this way on there own without having to read how to treat a woman.

  8. Great tips, for marriages it takes a lot of work by both parties to keep the romance alive.

  9. I do know from my wife talking to me while I am in front of the computer, I cannot really hear if I am looking at the computer, it has to be turned off or me not looking at it.
    They say that women can hear and understand more than one conversation at a time while a man will wind up hearing niether one.