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Tips for Keeping the Romance Alive

Anniversaries and Valentine’s Day are always romantic occasions, but what happens on the other 363 days out of the year? Life has a knack for chipping away at our relationships with different stresses: work, kids, and technology being just a few of the harbingers of staleness in a marriage. Keeping the passion alive means putting in effort year round. Don’t let your relationship become stagnant and incorporate these romance boosters to reconnect with the wonderful man you fell in love with.

Tips for Keeping the Romance Alive

Tips for Keeping the Romance Alive

Small Surprises, Big Love

Small surprises are an easy way to keep the spark alive. It can be as easy as “I love you” notes hung conspicuously on the refrigerator or taped to his electronic razor. Purchase small gifts for him and give them to him just because—no need for a special occasion to show him how much he’s loved. Bring him lunch on a random day out of the week for a midday surprise that will make the afternoon go faster, or send a racy text out of the blue that will have him praying that the day goes quicker so he can get home to you. This is an excellent tactic for those of us who are working with budgetary restrictions, as showing affection shouldn’t require a hefty price tag.

Bust a Move

Take a dance class and reconnect in one of the oldest methods of romance. A salsa class will definitely heat things up, and a ballroom instruction will have you feeling like Fred and Ginger as you waltz around the dance floor. Not only will it increase personal contact, but dancing is also a proven stress reliever, so you’ll both leave feeling refreshed and more connected than before.

Go Unplugged

In a world of connectivity, it’s amazing how the devices we use to stay updated can actually hinder our personal connections. Make a rule that the phones have to stay out of the bedroom. It will likely be a hard switch at first, but a necessary one if you’re really looking to bring some fire back into your relationship. Leave the television and computers out of the bedroom, as well. If boredom sets in before you fall asleep, you’ll have to rely on each other for entertainment and that can only mean awesome things for your intimacy levels.

A Sensual Meal

Make dinner and center your meal on aphrodisiac food items to heat things up. Look up a list of commonly cited aphrodisiacs that can help you cultivate the evening’s menu. Some common examples include oysters, chocolate, avocados, bananas, artichokes, and even arugula. Once you’ve got your menu set, invite him into the kitchen to help you get your hands dirty. Plate and enjoy, and see where the night takes you. Don’t forget the red wine!

Set Aside Time to Chat

This one is simple—talk more. You don’t need to have drawn out hour-long conversations, but busy work schedules and everyday stresses can force us to fall into the habit of shutting down once we’re home—which usually coincides with the only time we see our partners. Make a pact with each other to spend at least 10 minutes every evening with uninterrupted talking time and eye contact (most easily done after the kids are in bed). Making a conscious effort to chat will bring you back to that first few months of dating where you could spend hours on the phone, and increased communication is the pillar of improved intimacy, so what do you have to lose? If you need help getting started, consider using a book like “365 Questions for Married Couples.”

Primp a Little

It’s easy to slack on the dressing up and makeup routine once you’re comfortable with someone, but putting in the extra primping effort can mean great things for your romance. Surprise him with a new set of lingerie, take time doing your hair before a special dinner out, and splurge on a new dress every once in a while. The more confident you are, the sexier you’ll feel and that will likely translate to the bedroom.

Reconnecting shouldn’t be a scary thing. Incorporating even the smallest of changes into your everyday life can make a huge difference when it comes to your romance, and will bring a spark back into even the most stagnant of relationships.

Comments

  1. Mary Ambrosino says

    Nice hints for Valentines Day.

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