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Single for Valentine’s Day? Recently Divorced? Dating 101 Tips for Singles

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner and unfortunately this year I have a few friends who either got divorced or have separated from their spouse.  Dating for parents can be particularly hard, especially if their children are young.  Many people are turning to online dating  and local agencies that sponsor speed dating events.  Fortunately there are far more resources today than there ever were thanks to the internet.

Dating 101

When I divorced my first husband I went years before I ever dated.  Although there were a small handful of online dating sites it was still pretty taboo to meet men online.  It is a much more acceptable thing today, however if you are worried about safety here are a few tips that might help for your first date:

1. Never let him pick you up at your home.  Giving out your home address to a stranger is not a good idea.  Meet him in a public place.

2. Never plan a long first date.  The general rule of thumb is to keep the date under an hour.  Meet for coffee or glass of wine.  There is nothing worse than being stuck with someone that isn’t a good fit for hours over dinner.

3. Always leave yourself an exit.  Prior to the date let him know you have another obligation in an hour – maybe the sitter needs to leave early or you have a hair appointment.  Whatever it is be firm when it comes time to leaving, even if you are enjoying yourself.  Leave him wanting more…

4. Watch what you say. Try to resist talking about your ex, children (at least too much info), and sex.

5. Trust your gut. If you are uncomfortable at any time during your date do not be afraid to leave.

This is a featured post for Dating Agency and Just Singles Parents.

Comments

  1. I’ve always avoided profiles that list “Trained Assassin” or “Amateur Pharmaceuticals” as professions.

    The woman I marry will have to have an encyclopedic knowledge of the movie “Tremors”

  2. This gives me an idea what to share to my friend who is single at this time.This will really help her on what to do on choosing what kind of persons and what to do in dating a person.

  3. Amy S. Bonilla says

    Hi Lisa,

    Great tips! I’m one of those that will celebrate valentines alone. Well it’s OK with me, I’m kinda use to that. Well I think not giving your FB or Twitter address is a good way to stay safe like the first tips you have.

    Have a great day.

  4. Nice sharing of idea specially those who are single on this coming valentines day..I am going to share to this to my friend who is single right now..

  5. Kids lightweight strollers says

    Ah it’s coming around to that time of year again… Thanks for your tips Lisa, but do you really only spend 1 hour on a first date?! I guess it works? Maybe I should try it next time!

  6. I’m with someone right now but still find this interesting and will take note of this. Who knows I might find it useful in the future (I sincerely hope not/1) or share this to my girlfriends.

  7. jessietaylor92 says

    Lisa, I love your tips! These are supposed to be applied by all women whether they are single or single from a divorced. It’s a first date anyway. You have to know more about the person you are dating. As a divorced person, you have to learn from the past. It’s okay to enjoy a single life but you have to make sure that the person you are dating will not took advantage of it.

  8. It is depressing and not very pleasant to be alone on St. Valentine. But I suppose it is a matter of way to see things. I will celebrate it with my friends. After all I love them too!

  9. Just be yourself have friends to pick you up on a certain time or if things go sour.

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  10. I agree with most of your rules. But a first date should be something like a lunch held in more of a public place. You can arrange to meet at the location at a specific time. If things work out, you can plan another date. Also telling your life’s story is about the worst first date conversation there is. No one wants to hear about your life’s story or about any of your previous relationships. — Ethan

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